"The Funeral of Shelley" by Fournier‘I Am with You’: A Funeral Poem by Paul A. Freeman The Society March 3, 2024 Beauty, Poetry 16 Comments . I Am with You You are with me, this day, and I’m with you; in spirit and in memory we meet to celebrate and joyfully to rue my span, which in the bounds of Time was fleet. Although I’m gone from places I was known, I will remain an ever-present trace, reminding friends and family we’ve sown our presence on a changing earthly face. For ‘change’ is what my passing signifies, a moving on, beyond this poignant pause. The flow of life continues, while the ties of love compel forgiveness for our flaws. The thread is cut, and yet I’m still alive; in hearts and minds of those held dear, I thrive. . . Paul A. Freeman is the author of Rumours of Ophir, a crime novel which was taught in Zimbabwean high schools and has been translated into German. In addition to having two novels, a children’s book and an 18,000-word narrative poem (Robin Hood and Friar Tuck: Zombie Killers!) commercially published, Paul is the author of hundreds of published short stories, poems and articles. NOTE TO READERS: If you enjoyed this poem or other content, please consider making a donation to the Society of Classical Poets. The Society of Classical Poets does not endorse any views expressed in individual poems or commentary. Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window)Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)Click to share on WhatsApp (Opens in new window)Click to email a link to a friend (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)Trending now: 16 Responses Roy Eugene Peterson March 3, 2024 Very nice sentiments and rhymes that compose a poignant package in a precious sonnet. Reply Cheryl Corey March 3, 2024 A touching poem that anyone can relate to. I love the phrase: “to rue my span, which in the bounds of Time was fleet”. Reply C.B. Anderson March 3, 2024 The argument embodied and embedded in this poem is somewhat difficult to discern. Perhaps you simply lost your way in the tangle of form-fulfilling phrases. God knows, I’ve done that myself on many occasions. But at least you are still alive, and still with us. What would we do without our house liberal to vent on? Reply Paul Freeman March 3, 2024 That’s rather pathetic, even for you, Kipper. Reply C.B. Anderson March 4, 2024 But for you, Pauly, it would be a new high! Shamik Banerjee March 3, 2024 Yes, they never leave us, Mr. Freeman. Although the grief from their physical absence stays, it is through their marks left in our lives and our remembrance of them that we keep them alive. It’s a heart-touching poem where the language and rhymes are natural and mild-toned, making this poem a refuge for those needing it. Thank you for this gift. Reply Paul Freeman March 4, 2024 Thanks for reading and commenting, Shamik. When my mother passed last year, I recited a poem based on my favourite photograph of her and promised on a thread of funeral poems to add to that list. This is my offering. Reply James A. Tweedie March 3, 2024 Paul, the image of each life being a “poignant pause” is one that I will carry with me. It is a marvelous phrase that implies there is more to come! And that this life is but small taste of what is to be! Jim Reply Paul Freeman March 4, 2024 Thanks for reading and for your comment, James. Unlike when my father died, which was over a protracted period that lasted years, my mother departed rather quickly and at times it feels like she’s still here, alive. The poem reflects this idea / feeling, I hope. Reply Margaret Coats March 4, 2024 Paul, when I saw “I Am With You” as the title of a funeral poem, I thought the speaker would be a mourner (as usual). You’ve done the less usual thing of having the deceased speak, which in itself makes the point of the poem (that the deceased lives on). The language is simple and clear, as one would naturally expect from a dead person who now lacks worldly distractions. The ONLY slight difficulty I would see for a reader is determining the direct object of “we’ve sown.” The poetic line might seem to suggest “friends and family” as what we’ve sown–but that’s the sense for a poetic reader familiar with inversions. It is most natural in English for the object to follow the verb, as “our presence” does here. The reader may be a bit taken aback to find that the deceased speaks more simply than he does himself! Overall, the thought is a common one, but the expression is rare and spare. I must admire it in relation to a third-person poem I’ve just written myself about a bereavement, with numerous images that pay tribute to the deceased in a manner quite florid compared to this lovely simplicity of yours. Reply Paul Freeman March 4, 2024 Thank you for reading and for replying in such detail, Margaret. I’ll take on board your suggestions and return to the poem after a suitable amount of time has elapsed and I can look more objectively at it. As always, your reply is an education. Reply Margaret Coats March 4, 2024 Sorry to be unclear, Paul. I meant that the only difficulty in your wording is one easily solved as the reader moves to the next line, and therefore no change is needed. But thanks for misunderstanding–it gives me a chance to add how much I like “the ties of love compel forgiveness for our flaws.” This is comforting to the hearer/reader who learns he is forgiven by the deceased. It may not always be true, but again it is logical to think that many, as they approach death, naturally come to the knowledge that it is useless to hold grudges thereafter. Reply Paul A. Freeman March 5, 2024 Thanks for getting back to me and clarifying, Margaret. I’m glad you liked the line “the ties of love compel forgiveness for our flaws”. I wasn’t too sure of that line because, yes, there are grudges that continue beyond the grave. However, on balance we are forgiving creatures when it comes to ‘the final exit’, usually realising the pettiness of whatever falling out we had, if at all we can remember. Drilon Bajrami March 4, 2024 I find this to be quite the emotive poem, Paul, with a beautifully flowing couplet to finish and summarise. It reminds me of a quote: “When does a man die? When he is dead? No! A man dies when people forget him.” Let’s hope poetry like this isn’t long forgotten, like how it is in the modern day. Reply Paul Freeman March 4, 2024 What a wonderful quotation, Drilon. ‘I am with you’ is already on a few parishes list of funeral poems, which is a nice feeling, so hopefully it will be around for a while and hopefully helping folk through a difficult time in their lives. Reply Lorenz March 5, 2024 Just these few words require greater thought when one is aging and perhaps unwell. Although, the content is fully understood and absorbed. With my best wishes. This is my first submission Reply Leave a Reply Cancel ReplyYour email address will not be published.CommentName* Email* Website Notify me of follow-up comments by email. Notify me of new posts by email. Δ This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.
Roy Eugene Peterson March 3, 2024 Very nice sentiments and rhymes that compose a poignant package in a precious sonnet. Reply
Cheryl Corey March 3, 2024 A touching poem that anyone can relate to. I love the phrase: “to rue my span, which in the bounds of Time was fleet”. Reply
C.B. Anderson March 3, 2024 The argument embodied and embedded in this poem is somewhat difficult to discern. Perhaps you simply lost your way in the tangle of form-fulfilling phrases. God knows, I’ve done that myself on many occasions. But at least you are still alive, and still with us. What would we do without our house liberal to vent on? Reply
Shamik Banerjee March 3, 2024 Yes, they never leave us, Mr. Freeman. Although the grief from their physical absence stays, it is through their marks left in our lives and our remembrance of them that we keep them alive. It’s a heart-touching poem where the language and rhymes are natural and mild-toned, making this poem a refuge for those needing it. Thank you for this gift. Reply
Paul Freeman March 4, 2024 Thanks for reading and commenting, Shamik. When my mother passed last year, I recited a poem based on my favourite photograph of her and promised on a thread of funeral poems to add to that list. This is my offering. Reply
James A. Tweedie March 3, 2024 Paul, the image of each life being a “poignant pause” is one that I will carry with me. It is a marvelous phrase that implies there is more to come! And that this life is but small taste of what is to be! Jim Reply
Paul Freeman March 4, 2024 Thanks for reading and for your comment, James. Unlike when my father died, which was over a protracted period that lasted years, my mother departed rather quickly and at times it feels like she’s still here, alive. The poem reflects this idea / feeling, I hope. Reply
Margaret Coats March 4, 2024 Paul, when I saw “I Am With You” as the title of a funeral poem, I thought the speaker would be a mourner (as usual). You’ve done the less usual thing of having the deceased speak, which in itself makes the point of the poem (that the deceased lives on). The language is simple and clear, as one would naturally expect from a dead person who now lacks worldly distractions. The ONLY slight difficulty I would see for a reader is determining the direct object of “we’ve sown.” The poetic line might seem to suggest “friends and family” as what we’ve sown–but that’s the sense for a poetic reader familiar with inversions. It is most natural in English for the object to follow the verb, as “our presence” does here. The reader may be a bit taken aback to find that the deceased speaks more simply than he does himself! Overall, the thought is a common one, but the expression is rare and spare. I must admire it in relation to a third-person poem I’ve just written myself about a bereavement, with numerous images that pay tribute to the deceased in a manner quite florid compared to this lovely simplicity of yours. Reply
Paul Freeman March 4, 2024 Thank you for reading and for replying in such detail, Margaret. I’ll take on board your suggestions and return to the poem after a suitable amount of time has elapsed and I can look more objectively at it. As always, your reply is an education. Reply
Margaret Coats March 4, 2024 Sorry to be unclear, Paul. I meant that the only difficulty in your wording is one easily solved as the reader moves to the next line, and therefore no change is needed. But thanks for misunderstanding–it gives me a chance to add how much I like “the ties of love compel forgiveness for our flaws.” This is comforting to the hearer/reader who learns he is forgiven by the deceased. It may not always be true, but again it is logical to think that many, as they approach death, naturally come to the knowledge that it is useless to hold grudges thereafter. Reply
Paul A. Freeman March 5, 2024 Thanks for getting back to me and clarifying, Margaret. I’m glad you liked the line “the ties of love compel forgiveness for our flaws”. I wasn’t too sure of that line because, yes, there are grudges that continue beyond the grave. However, on balance we are forgiving creatures when it comes to ‘the final exit’, usually realising the pettiness of whatever falling out we had, if at all we can remember.
Drilon Bajrami March 4, 2024 I find this to be quite the emotive poem, Paul, with a beautifully flowing couplet to finish and summarise. It reminds me of a quote: “When does a man die? When he is dead? No! A man dies when people forget him.” Let’s hope poetry like this isn’t long forgotten, like how it is in the modern day. Reply
Paul Freeman March 4, 2024 What a wonderful quotation, Drilon. ‘I am with you’ is already on a few parishes list of funeral poems, which is a nice feeling, so hopefully it will be around for a while and hopefully helping folk through a difficult time in their lives. Reply
Lorenz March 5, 2024 Just these few words require greater thought when one is aging and perhaps unwell. Although, the content is fully understood and absorbed. With my best wishes. This is my first submission Reply